Dissolve your Communication Skills

I have 1000 of reasons why communication skills is not needed for Humans. Yes its needed but its given too much of a hype out in the world. Truly it sucks. The Number :1 reason is Communication does not have an intimacy. You have an agenda or a task in mind and you approach or probably ping other like a robot. The Communication goes like this,a formal Hi and then straight to the Point which is mostly Do and Don’t or a command with a “can” or “will”. It mostly ends with a smiling smiley.

The Problem of communication is that One group communicates with client or customers as a receiving channel and then passes down the information to the other end. The Idea is that the Middle guy should converse with both the ends or collaborate both the ends to bring about the actual purpose of the idea both really wants. Otherwise, it would appear that one has to do what has been communicated as a duty.

Communication simply is a art of speaking the ideas one thinks in the mind.It ends there.The ability to make a creative conversation out of the ideas we have is communication.Now Communication has become more of an sending down the command and message. One really needs to understand if he becomes a Man by communicating or he became a Robo by communicating.That’s the core point. Even Parrots can be better communicators than Robots since there is a cute factor in the communication of Parrots.

Always having an agenda in Mind and in the name of getting things done is what makes Jack a dull boy. when there is no agenda, conversation happens and out of the conversation there is a great contentment in the moment spent for both.He directly feels the connection with the other person without any wires of communication link. The wi-fi hotspot is active for both and connection happens in a click. It takes real time to build a great world. Destruction can be fast. Communication is more of a command which is destructive by nature. It appears that we are building but we are actually cutting down the trees, we are cutting down the roots.

The Future is really going to get mad with the Internet of Things where even objects communicate with each other. Your Home, Fridge, TV, Mobile, Car, Credit Cards, Devices all will communicate with each other and do things on it own. Imagine all the devices shouting at you in a moment. So funny to see you with an electric shock hairstyle with You sitting there in the middle of all things. People are now angry that they want to break their computers and in the future they simply will be angry on plenty of things. The Capitalistic Model of One Mans Business is not going to enhance the society. He is trying to set up everything automatic so he can relax but he is not able to relax. You are trying to learn skills on Internet of things for the One mans Idea of relaxing in his Future. Both are going to meet and fail because the moment it meets, the technology is outdated and the one man is worried that whatever he has setup is outdated and there is a next one man turning things for his future relaxing.

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Mind is not our Choice?

 Mind is not in our hands or Our Mind is not our Choice.  How is that Mind is not our choice?

Scenario One: JoAnn and her Birthday Gift.

Day One:

JoAnn wanted to buy a gift for her friend’s birthday. She had 100 bucks and she found a wonderful watch and when she was about to purchase it, someone gently requests her that they wanted the watch and JoAnn felt sorry for them and let them buy it.

Day Two:

JoAnn went to a different shopping center and she was surprised to  find the same watch again but now she came to know that someone has already ordered it and now she approaches the concerned person to ask gently that she was in need of the watch but she were not successful in getting it.

Mind Analysis:I helped a person on Day One and in Day Two when the same thing happened to me, no one helped me.         Attitude:She now develop a Attitude that not to help others.

Day Three:

A Friend of JoAnn asked her to lend 100 bucks for a medical emergency. She just replied,” I don’t have any money now”. JoAnn went to a shop to buy some watch which was available for 100 bucks as it was getting delayed. She also felt sad about the lie she said to her friend

Day Four:

When the watch had been gifted to her friend , her friend replied that, I have so many watches and it could have been better if I had got something else. JoAnn felt sorry that she had taken three days to present a gift and that she was not appreciated. She also had a thought that,”I could have helped a friend who had an emergency.”

Mind Analysis: I did not help the Person in Day Three and gave a present to a person on Day Four and I was not appreciated. Attitude:Its better to help a person who is in need rather than who doesn’t ask for help.                                                    

All the Attitudes a person have turns into his character.How is that Attitude turns into a Character?

Scenario Two:  Dong  Lee Mind and his Attitude

Dong Lee Attitude: Smoking is injurious to health and I came to know that many smokers died of cancer.

Dong Lee goes to a party where everyone in the party smokes, some compels him to smoke but he was so strong that he did not accept their request. Everyone in  the party came to an conclusion about Dong that Dong never smokes(Dong Character).

When someone someday finds Dong Lee smoking, they would question him, I thought you would never smoke?

Dong would reply that I started this habit recently since I thought smoking one or two cigars per week is not so injurious( Changed Attitude).

A Attitude of a person varies from Time to Time and the character of a person is what seen by others.

Example:

  • I never thought you would do like this.
  • I did not expect this from you.
  • I believed you but you cheated me.

We assume a Character on a person and would  view the person as the character and if the attitude change, the character change.

If Attitude of a Person can Change, why is that I am not able to change my habit?

We just need to understand that “Our Mind is not our Choice” or in other words, “Our Mind is not in Our Hands.

Why is that Mind is not our Choice and How to make it as Our Choice?

The Brain is an Organ which receives constant inputs from sense organs in the body and stores the information and the Output of the information can be called as a thought.

A series of thoughts can be called as Mind.

Example: I forgot where I kept my pen?

Upon Analyzing the information stored in the brain like where you went, whom you met and if you had given to someone, these thoughts can be put together as Mind.

The Information you receive will change day by day and the hence chances are that your mind changes and so does your attitude and character changes.

Now, The Real problem is if we want to really change something it seems to be very difficult.

Example:

  • I want to reduce my weight. Even though I have read a lot of information about being slim; I am unable to become slim.
  • I want to quit my bad habits such as smoking, but I am unable to do so; may be I think I got addicted.

So How to change an Habit or to become a better person?

We need to know about the Three Kinds of Mind to understand how we can change or how we can use our mind to become a better person.

  1. Conscious Mind – Thoughts
  2.  Sub-Conscious Mind – Habits (Character- Attitude)
  3. Unconscious Mind – Sleep

In Simple Words, Sub-Conscious Mind is the one which controls Habits. It will make you to remember even if you forget it.

Example:

Brushing the Teeth is an Habitual Action we do daily which is controlled by Sub-Conscious.

But in Day One, You would not have remembered that we need to brush our teeth and our mother would have reminded us to do so.

Thus it takes nearly a month for a subconscious mind to remind us an activity to do daily.

In Short we Just need to follow the action for 5 days. The Next Two days(Saturday and Sunday) again mother has to wake us up and then ask to brush our teeth.

To Change an Habit and to change ourselves, We just need to do the activity for 5 days.

Here is my God

This is a video on God titled- இதோ எந்தன் தெய்வம்( Here is my God).

The Original Song from the Film-Babu.

I have written the screenplay, directed and edited the video!!

How to escape Sorrow

If you are born in this world, you need to cry!!

I developed a statement or I wrote a dialogue,
“I need to cry, I need to shed tears and I want to fail in Life”

The above statement may seem to be mad, but the truth is it can turn out to be the best statement for the person who follows it.

For Instance, If you are in tough times in your life, you would see it as an experience and try to move on with your life instead of asking the really mad Questions such as, ” Why is that it all happens to me?”.

Another Instance, If we laugh one day with full of happiness, people would say, “Don’t laugh too much you would cry then”.

The Clarity is Happiness and Sadness are cycles of Life and it’s not true that if we laugh we may have to cry!!

The sorrow for anyone would be a loss of a loved one or a broke up.

This can be imagined even as ” A Child crying when her teady bear is lost”

Our Crying is almost similar to that of the Child whether we believe it or not, its the truth!!

Some of the statements to cry include, “My Life has no meaning without my love” or “My Life is incomplete without my Love”

Consider the scenario:

When a camera which was bought with severe desire is lost, we cry
But, When we our-self can give the camera to a friend who wants it, it takes a great heart to do that and we would feel a satisfaction even though we are losing it!!

Crying for oneself means Selfish!! You may need the camera since you extracted happiness out of it.

Crying for someone means spreading misery. If we know that we cannot do anything to the person who has a sorrow. We may just need to pray and move on. If we cry and turn our-self by being sad all the time, we are spreading misery.

A person in sorrow may need to find a way to recover themselves, worrying for that person is of no use and its like stopping them to do their actions with our consolations!

I am deeply in sorrow and How to escape sorrow?

The Simple way to forget sorrow is to keep oneself busy!! But in reality, we tend to do the opposite by simply sitting and thinking the same event which had happened.

For Instance, When a person has lost love, they slowly becomes separated from their friends and the rest of the world.

Instead, it would be happy if they can spread happiness in the world by talking with other people and by keeping themselves busy by doing things which they like the most!!

Palmistry is a Mystery

I am not interested in Palmistry and I did not ask anyone to check my palms.

One Day, I was traveling in a bus and a guy came and sat to me and checked my palms and said something that this is what will happen to you and just like that left in the next stop. I was wondering who is he and why on earth he is telling me things which I did not ask.

But, I don’t want that thing to happen and I was very hard in trying and forcing myself that such a thing should not happen and I wanted to prove that he was wrong!! By my acts, I was going into a state of madness and I would be happy if some events were favorable and sad when the events turn unfavorable.

Unfortunately, However hard I tried I was not able to create the Event against his words and what he said might happen to me.  Since the future is unpredictable, whatever can happen and I need to focus on my goals!!

 

Astrology is Perception

I am not a believer of astrology. But, Astrology has played a fatal role in my life and had brought sorrows to me.

It all started when I found some astrology books in my grandfather’s house. It was very fun for me to ask for other people’s date of birth and to check their character and yes most people agreed with some points what I said. The important aspect I do is I will read their characters personally and if I found a match in the book, I will tell only those points and not other points which I don’t understand.

So, by this I checked the traits of my close friends and used to tell them and they would throw me surprises and tell me how you are telling me exactly. But, I never knew it could create so much sorrow in my life.

I checked for one of my friend and said about the traits and yes there was surprise and agreed to be true. But the future part written on the person was not good in my perception of them. I firmly believed that a disaster is going to happen and I was going mad such that I should anyhow save from disaster. I had taken that as a motto of my life.

I was not a believer of god but I was going into external locus of control and some events occurred which was out of my control and thought that some external power is there. However, I never prayed for me but I was praying for that person and was crying day and night that I need to somehow stop the disaster. This was also because of the factor that the person said only god can save me and some events were occurring which gave me signals that a disaster is going to happen.

I started thinking day and night about the person and I failed to mind my own business. I did not show interest in anything and I was always found to be dull. I stopped enjoying and I thought I should not enjoy.

The disaster did not happen and my perception was wrong. I also believe that in some way, I was helpful in stopping the disaster again which I don’t know if it right or wrong. This is again my perception and I know that I somehow need to avoid it.

 

 

Tense becomes Tension

Why Tense becomes Tension?

What we have which is common for anybody?

Time – 24 Hours a Day. However, we have differentiated Time as Past,Present and Future. We call it as

Past Tense

Present Tense

Future Tense

Now, Consider a Child is born.

The Child lives the present. The Child doesnt know about the past or dont worry about the Future. The Survival of the baby is taken care by the parents.

The Child slowly understands mother,father,relations and others. As the baby grows these nearby such as family becomes its past.

It enters a new world- School. This is the Time it starts to worry about Future.

All Children cry to go to School. The Mother cautions the child saying, “If You do not eat the food, teacher is coming to beat you.”

In the evening, the child is asked to prepare for the Next Day(Future) by giving tasks such as Home work or to study for the test.

A scenerio:

A child asks for a chocolate, the (past) parents tell the child that,”Only if you get First Rank(Future) I will buy and give you”

We worry about the Future!

We feel sad for the Past!

We never live the Present!

Now read the First Line for this Post!