Dissolve your Communication Skills

I have 1000 of reasons why communication skills is not needed for Humans. Yes its needed but its given too much of a hype out in the world. Truly it sucks. The Number :1 reason is Communication does not have an intimacy. You have an agenda or a task in mind and you approach or probably ping other like a robot. The Communication goes like this,a formal Hi and then straight to the Point which is mostly Do and Don’t or a command with a “can” or “will”. It mostly ends with a smiling smiley.

The Problem of communication is that One group communicates with client or customers as a receiving channel and then passes down the information to the other end. The Idea is that the Middle guy should converse with both the ends or collaborate both the ends to bring about the actual purpose of the idea both really wants. Otherwise, it would appear that one has to do what has been communicated as a duty.

Communication simply is a art of speaking the ideas one thinks in the mind.It ends there.The ability to make a creative conversation out of the ideas we have is communication.Now Communication has become more of an sending down the command and message. One really needs to understand if he becomes a Man by communicating or he became a Robo by communicating.That’s the core point. Even Parrots can be better communicators than Robots since there is a cute factor in the communication of Parrots.

Always having an agenda in Mind and in the name of getting things done is what makes Jack a dull boy. when there is no agenda, conversation happens and out of the conversation there is a great contentment in the moment spent for both.He directly feels the connection with the other person without any wires of communication link. The wi-fi hotspot is active for both and connection happens in a click. It takes real time to build a great world. Destruction can be fast. Communication is more of a command which is destructive by nature. It appears that we are building but we are actually cutting down the trees, we are cutting down the roots.

The Future is really going to get mad with the Internet of Things where even objects communicate with each other. Your Home, Fridge, TV, Mobile, Car, Credit Cards, Devices all will communicate with each other and do things on it own. Imagine all the devices shouting at you in a moment. So funny to see you with an electric shock hairstyle with You sitting there in the middle of all things. People are now angry that they want to break their computers and in the future they simply will be angry on plenty of things. The Capitalistic Model of One Mans Business is not going to enhance the society. He is trying to set up everything automatic so he can relax but he is not able to relax. You are trying to learn skills on Internet of things for the One mans Idea of relaxing in his Future. Both are going to meet and fail because the moment it meets, the technology is outdated and the one man is worried that whatever he has setup is outdated and there is a next one man turning things for his future relaxing.

Advertisements

My Crush with Insurance Agent : Story

The Moment we hear the sound, “Insurance Agent”, we may think about some creepy looking,half baked,middle aged guy mostly a relative or a neighbor with a fake smile in the face. We always try to hide ourselves from them not for one reason but for unexplainable reasons.

Even I was little hesitating when I heard my sister say, That some Insurance Agent wants to meet me.

Sister : Are you free this weekend?
Me : Yes, why?
Sister : A Insurance Agent asked me if your Brother would be free this weekend.
Me : Look, I am not interested in seeing any Agents now.
Sister : Okay Then, I will then inform my friend.
Me : What Friend?
Sister : My College Friend, Her sister is an Insurance Agent.
Me : Oh, Didn’t She find any other better Jobs?
Sister : No, I think She has joined First Year MBA in IIT, Chennai.

For Few Minutes, I could not talk anything. My Mind was in its own Thoughts, “What is she telling me?. I have never heard anything which sounded so strange.” After a deep breathe, I looked for my sister. She was as usual talking in Cell Phone to her friend I suppose, and as walked closer, she lowered her voice and looked at me.

Me : I think its fine to meet your Friend’s sister this weekend.
Sister : Okay Fine, I will inform her.

As I walked away from my sister, She continued talking in her Phone.
Then after few Hours, I walked back to my sister and asked her to give my number if needed.

As Days passed by, A got a call from an Unknown number after about say Two weeks. But, I was in midst of work, so I could not attend during that time. Hence, I called back after about say One Hour.

Me: Hello, I got a call from this number.
Other End : Silence
Me : May I know who is this.
Other End : Sorry, Is this Suresh?
Me : Yes
Other End : Hi Suresh, I am (Her Name) and I am your sister’s friend.
Me : Oh, Ya..I remember You.
Other End : Sorry, I could have called you before.
Me : Fine, No Problem
Other End : If you are free tomorrow, can we meet?
Me : Ya Sure. where?
Other End : Where ever you wish. Or I can come to your Home.
Me : Yes, Home would be better.
Other End : Will meet you tomorrow. Bye
Me : Ya, Bye

I was sitting in a chair and I got up. I walked towards mirror, saw myself and returned back to chair.
I felt that her voice is cute and matured. I wanted to meet her. I looked up the ceiling and took a breathe.
That night, I was not able to sleep properly as her voice was repeating in my mind and to somehow see her.
I kept the alarm at 9:00AM and I was too late to notice that it was already past 10:00. I got up to make sure I am ready and not to be sleepy in case if she arrives. I was hesitating to call and ask about her status and I waited. After my Lunch, I got angry and went back to sleep. My Mother informed that She is leaving out and asked me to check the gate at times. I almost nodded in sleep but I forgot. It was about 5:00PM and I heard the door bell.

Suddenly, I remembered if She had come and quickly got up from the bed. Hurried to the basin to wash my face and applied powder to unmask the sleepy tone. I opened the door after changing to a Pant and Shirt.

She : Hello Suresh. Sorry to disturb you. I hope you are not sleeping.
Me : (Long Pause) Oh, No, No Problem. I was just inside my room. So could not hear the bell.

I asked her to come in and sit in a chair in the Hall. I went inside the kitchen with a sign to bring some water.

Inside the Kitchen, I did not know what to do. I walked here and there. My Instinct bounced with random thoughts, “Suresh, She is looking too good and gorgeous…She is also modern and well dressed..Think she is slightly taller than you…Nah..No,She might be wearing high heals” The Water overflowed and I closed the tap.

Me: So, You are from which Insurance.
She : I am from (Mute) Insurance
Me (Mind Voice) : Surprised, Not the one which I regularly hear.
She : Thanks for the Water.
Me : Okay, How much should I pay and what will be the returns?
She (Smiled) : No, Its a Term Insurance.
Me : (Pause) okay, How much I need to invest.

She started to explain me slowly and I continued to listen. Within Ten minutes, with the level of knowledge she has and her entrepreneurship spirit, I fell in Love with her.

I called my Friend to test their Insurance Knowledge. When they talked like me, I laughed and explained them what she informed.

Me : Have you got any Insurance
Friend : Yes.
Me : How much is the Sum Assured
Friend : No, We have to pay around (some money) and in the end they will return (some money).
Me(Laughs) : What you are talking is not Sum Assured. You are insuring or Investing?
Friend: I cannot understand what you are talking.
Me : In Simple words,Term Insurance is the actual insurance. Others are just Investment Products in the name of insurance.
Friend : So what.
Me : What you have taken is not Insurance actually.

I once again thought about what she informed during the conversation.

Me : So, in Term Insurance, I wont get any returns?
She : Yes, Term Insurance is the actual Insurance. Its like a Vanilla Ice-Cream.
Me : Then, the money will come only in case of Claim and the beneficiary will get the amount.
She : That’s right. If I sign a Term Insurance and in case if I die, my nominee will get huge amount(Sum assured) based on the contract where the same would be a mere amount if I happened to get any other Insurance(Investment Insurance).
Me: So, Only Term Insurance meets the actual need of Insurance which is to protect the Family as if the insured person is alive.
She : Yes, That’s Correct.
Me : So, Why not other Agents sell Term Insurance.
She : Its because, the commissions are too low in Term Insurance.
Me : Fine. Why did you join as Insurance Agent.
She : I joined my MBA now and I wanted to be an Entrepreneur and I felt that I am weak in Sales. I also thought that being an Insurance Agent could help to overcome my shyness and to build my sales and social skills.

She did not ask or force me to buy a policy. She just explained and left. I was moved by her positive thinking and she motivated me. I wanted to meet her once again not to get an policy from her but to make her as my nominee.

“Insurance is a subject matter of solicitation”

END

Love to be Loved : A Love Story

The Night was Dark and it was raining heavily. The Watch read 10:30PM. She got some calls and She was busy talking in the Phone.I looked at her face and it was so bright in the moonlight. We both were standing in the Bus Stop and there was no sign of Bus or any movement.

I looked at her ID Card and I came to know She was working in my Company but I have not seen her till date. I thought to myself that She may be new to the Company as I would have known any beautiful girl in and around my space. She turned towards me and looked at me and She had a laugh suddenly.

For her, I should have looked like Fun loving Software Engineer with a Spike in my head and a French Beard. I wanted to take this as my advantage and I approached her. She got a call again and was saying, “why do you want to struggle in this rain; I will manage and come in an Auto. You please dont worry”

She once again saw me and had a sweet smile in her face. I looked up and said, “Seems Its raining heavily” for which giggled and said, “Ya Ya”. I continued asking..So,where is your House and by the same time a Auto Passed alongside and She waived her hand. The Auto Stopped and She was about to move. For me, It was like I have asked a Question and she is about to move and was wondering if I got a Bulb.

Suddenly She stopped and asked where do you want to go and my fused bulb started to glow in the dark.She said to me that I am also going that way and if you want we can share the ride. I got in and It was like a Share Auto and She was sitting on the Opposite Side in the Cusion and I was sitting in the Wooden Board. I thought She would think me like a gentleman by not sitting next to the beautiful girl.

For me, It was more convienent to watch her face in the Lightening strike and her face was glittering in the Flash.I was waiting for the lightening to strike again to see her face again and again in the Flash. I could sense that She was feeling little tensed and was seen messaging curiosly.

I asked if She is okay and asked her name in the middle of it. She said her name but did not ask mine which I thought was normal and I did not feel much worried about it. Even if I was worried I did not want to show it in my face atleast. As time passes by,I was feeling worried as She was sitting silent and I am still waiting if She would ask my name.

I started again introducing myself and my name for which She showed some interest.I was little happy and asked her some questions for which She answered back. I felt some relief when she started talking and had some golden thought that my Journey was set. My Yet Another mind of the Men’s Species was in the exicted state thinking that since she has talked to you, your Life will now become Colourful starting from the Dark.

The Same Mind made me ask her, Which College did you study,the usual and the same Question. For which She said the name of a Woman’s Collage. I started asking about her College Life and She started saying How other girls cut the college and move out with their boyfriends and other such stories which was quite different to hear it from a girl.

Now, the Mind asked a Question which became the twist of the Story. The Question was did you ever love anyone like the other girls in your class? She became silent and It was raising my blood pressure and the auto ride was like a roller coaster for me.

She started by saying No… where I had a feeling like gulping a banana as if it was in the throat, She said completed the sentence saying,”No, I did not have any love near my College since I had a boyfriend near my house. He was there in the same street, the house before my house” She stopped.

It was already dark and I could not see anything when she completed the sentence. I had enough jerk as the auto rushed in the midst of the broken road filled with water. My mind wanted to know what happened after that and asked her,So, What happened after that?

She continued, One Day my family members came to know that I am in affair with this front door boy as one of our nieghbours who saw us informed about this to my parents…My mind was thinking that her family would have somehow emotionally blackmailed and asked her to forget the boy and concentrate on the studies. A lorry crossed with a horn as I was thinking and I could notice that I had infact lost the track on what she was saying and the last words said were like until my marriage.

What? It was like someone is blowing a conch(Sangu) near my ear and my own mind was laughing at me. It was a strange moment in my life as I was not able to laugh nor was not able to cry. Strangely, I also wanted to cry and laugh at the same time which I even could not do. In this confusion I gazed around I could see her lips moving but all I could hear was a OoHoo Sound.

Once the sound reduced I could hear that She was saying, “My Husband will start his own company in the next month and I no longer have to work again”. The Feelings were like I could not breathe nor could say a word. There were no thoughts completely but I was sure that I am alive. I did not move my eyes, legs or the body. This position lasted for some minutes until my mind started a thinking,”So, He is the one whom She was talking to and was messaging all the time?”

“Oh, My God..So, She had fooled me or She had used me to travel with her for her security? I cannot believe anyone, Oh My God…” My mind was blabbering in its own world and at the sametime another mind was insisting me, “Damn,She is such a sweet girl to help you and to let you inside the auto since She had some trust on you. So, Be greatful to her, man” I could feel that I am breathing and that I have come back to normal.

I thought my second mind was right, I should be greatful to her and She did not fool me; It was me who wanted to start a conversation with her. My Mind started to cool down with this thoughts and it definetely had to cool down anyhow. What else it can do in this situation?

Finally the Brake was applied and She thanked me and got down from the Auto and me who was thinking in some world seemed to have blabbered and asked her if she was in Facebook (To give an impression to maintain the friendship he had in the ride.) After the words have come out,I had some strange feelings if I had friendship in the ride which was quite disturbing me. But,She gave me the one and I did not peep out to look at her husband and the Auto started moving.

Then, After few months of Dry Life, I just thought to give a try on her Facebook since I was bored. So,I went inside her Profile.There I saw your Pic in her Friend List with a beautiful and Cute smile and I gave you the Friend Request. I did not really expect that you would accept me and I am thankful to God to have you as my Wife. “So”, My Wife started to ask a Question. I already knew what She was going to ask. Hence, before even she completed her sentence, I started, “Yes, I already knew that you are her Junior and that I also had some idea that you can spend time with me by bunking your classes.

I completed saying this story to my Wife and She said Idiot in her own sweet manner and came running to hit me saying, “You.. You….”

 

Love Failure Video Song

 

A Friend advices to a Guy who has just lost his Love.
Language of the Song is in Tamil!

 

Mind is not our Choice?

 Mind is not in our hands or Our Mind is not our Choice.  How is that Mind is not our choice?

Scenario One: JoAnn and her Birthday Gift.

Day One:

JoAnn wanted to buy a gift for her friend’s birthday. She had 100 bucks and she found a wonderful watch and when she was about to purchase it, someone gently requests her that they wanted the watch and JoAnn felt sorry for them and let them buy it.

Day Two:

JoAnn went to a different shopping center and she was surprised to  find the same watch again but now she came to know that someone has already ordered it and now she approaches the concerned person to ask gently that she was in need of the watch but she were not successful in getting it.

Mind Analysis:I helped a person on Day One and in Day Two when the same thing happened to me, no one helped me.         Attitude:She now develop a Attitude that not to help others.

Day Three:

A Friend of JoAnn asked her to lend 100 bucks for a medical emergency. She just replied,” I don’t have any money now”. JoAnn went to a shop to buy some watch which was available for 100 bucks as it was getting delayed. She also felt sad about the lie she said to her friend

Day Four:

When the watch had been gifted to her friend , her friend replied that, I have so many watches and it could have been better if I had got something else. JoAnn felt sorry that she had taken three days to present a gift and that she was not appreciated. She also had a thought that,”I could have helped a friend who had an emergency.”

Mind Analysis: I did not help the Person in Day Three and gave a present to a person on Day Four and I was not appreciated. Attitude:Its better to help a person who is in need rather than who doesn’t ask for help.                                                    

All the Attitudes a person have turns into his character.How is that Attitude turns into a Character?

Scenario Two:  Dong  Lee Mind and his Attitude

Dong Lee Attitude: Smoking is injurious to health and I came to know that many smokers died of cancer.

Dong Lee goes to a party where everyone in the party smokes, some compels him to smoke but he was so strong that he did not accept their request. Everyone in  the party came to an conclusion about Dong that Dong never smokes(Dong Character).

When someone someday finds Dong Lee smoking, they would question him, I thought you would never smoke?

Dong would reply that I started this habit recently since I thought smoking one or two cigars per week is not so injurious( Changed Attitude).

A Attitude of a person varies from Time to Time and the character of a person is what seen by others.

Example:

  • I never thought you would do like this.
  • I did not expect this from you.
  • I believed you but you cheated me.

We assume a Character on a person and would  view the person as the character and if the attitude change, the character change.

If Attitude of a Person can Change, why is that I am not able to change my habit?

We just need to understand that “Our Mind is not our Choice” or in other words, “Our Mind is not in Our Hands.

Why is that Mind is not our Choice and How to make it as Our Choice?

The Brain is an Organ which receives constant inputs from sense organs in the body and stores the information and the Output of the information can be called as a thought.

A series of thoughts can be called as Mind.

Example: I forgot where I kept my pen?

Upon Analyzing the information stored in the brain like where you went, whom you met and if you had given to someone, these thoughts can be put together as Mind.

The Information you receive will change day by day and the hence chances are that your mind changes and so does your attitude and character changes.

Now, The Real problem is if we want to really change something it seems to be very difficult.

Example:

  • I want to reduce my weight. Even though I have read a lot of information about being slim; I am unable to become slim.
  • I want to quit my bad habits such as smoking, but I am unable to do so; may be I think I got addicted.

So How to change an Habit or to become a better person?

We need to know about the Three Kinds of Mind to understand how we can change or how we can use our mind to become a better person.

  1. Conscious Mind – Thoughts
  2.  Sub-Conscious Mind – Habits (Character- Attitude)
  3. Unconscious Mind – Sleep

In Simple Words, Sub-Conscious Mind is the one which controls Habits. It will make you to remember even if you forget it.

Example:

Brushing the Teeth is an Habitual Action we do daily which is controlled by Sub-Conscious.

But in Day One, You would not have remembered that we need to brush our teeth and our mother would have reminded us to do so.

Thus it takes nearly a month for a subconscious mind to remind us an activity to do daily.

In Short we Just need to follow the action for 5 days. The Next Two days(Saturday and Sunday) again mother has to wake us up and then ask to brush our teeth.

To Change an Habit and to change ourselves, We just need to do the activity for 5 days.

Here is my God

This is a video on God titled- இதோ எந்தன் தெய்வம்( Here is my God).

The Original Song from the Film-Babu.

I have written the screenplay, directed and edited the video!!

How to escape Sorrow

If you are born in this world, you need to cry!!

I developed a statement or I wrote a dialogue,
“I need to cry, I need to shed tears and I want to fail in Life”

The above statement may seem to be mad, but the truth is it can turn out to be the best statement for the person who follows it.

For Instance, If you are in tough times in your life, you would see it as an experience and try to move on with your life instead of asking the really mad Questions such as, ” Why is that it all happens to me?”.

Another Instance, If we laugh one day with full of happiness, people would say, “Don’t laugh too much you would cry then”.

The Clarity is Happiness and Sadness are cycles of Life and it’s not true that if we laugh we may have to cry!!

The sorrow for anyone would be a loss of a loved one or a broke up.

This can be imagined even as ” A Child crying when her teady bear is lost”

Our Crying is almost similar to that of the Child whether we believe it or not, its the truth!!

Some of the statements to cry include, “My Life has no meaning without my love” or “My Life is incomplete without my Love”

Consider the scenario:

When a camera which was bought with severe desire is lost, we cry
But, When we our-self can give the camera to a friend who wants it, it takes a great heart to do that and we would feel a satisfaction even though we are losing it!!

Crying for oneself means Selfish!! You may need the camera since you extracted happiness out of it.

Crying for someone means spreading misery. If we know that we cannot do anything to the person who has a sorrow. We may just need to pray and move on. If we cry and turn our-self by being sad all the time, we are spreading misery.

A person in sorrow may need to find a way to recover themselves, worrying for that person is of no use and its like stopping them to do their actions with our consolations!

I am deeply in sorrow and How to escape sorrow?

The Simple way to forget sorrow is to keep oneself busy!! But in reality, we tend to do the opposite by simply sitting and thinking the same event which had happened.

For Instance, When a person has lost love, they slowly becomes separated from their friends and the rest of the world.

Instead, it would be happy if they can spread happiness in the world by talking with other people and by keeping themselves busy by doing things which they like the most!!