Mind is not our Choice?

 Mind is not in our hands or Our Mind is not our Choice.  How is that Mind is not our choice?

Scenario One: JoAnn and her Birthday Gift.

Day One:

JoAnn wanted to buy a gift for her friend’s birthday. She had 100 bucks and she found a wonderful watch and when she was about to purchase it, someone gently requests her that they wanted the watch and JoAnn felt sorry for them and let them buy it.

Day Two:

JoAnn went to a different shopping center and she was surprised to  find the same watch again but now she came to know that someone has already ordered it and now she approaches the concerned person to ask gently that she was in need of the watch but she were not successful in getting it.

Mind Analysis:I helped a person on Day One and in Day Two when the same thing happened to me, no one helped me.         Attitude:She now develop a Attitude that not to help others.

Day Three:

A Friend of JoAnn asked her to lend 100 bucks for a medical emergency. She just replied,” I don’t have any money now”. JoAnn went to a shop to buy some watch which was available for 100 bucks as it was getting delayed. She also felt sad about the lie she said to her friend

Day Four:

When the watch had been gifted to her friend , her friend replied that, I have so many watches and it could have been better if I had got something else. JoAnn felt sorry that she had taken three days to present a gift and that she was not appreciated. She also had a thought that,”I could have helped a friend who had an emergency.”

Mind Analysis: I did not help the Person in Day Three and gave a present to a person on Day Four and I was not appreciated. Attitude:Its better to help a person who is in need rather than who doesn’t ask for help.                                                    

All the Attitudes a person have turns into his character.How is that Attitude turns into a Character?

Scenario Two:  Dong  Lee Mind and his Attitude

Dong Lee Attitude: Smoking is injurious to health and I came to know that many smokers died of cancer.

Dong Lee goes to a party where everyone in the party smokes, some compels him to smoke but he was so strong that he did not accept their request. Everyone in  the party came to an conclusion about Dong that Dong never smokes(Dong Character).

When someone someday finds Dong Lee smoking, they would question him, I thought you would never smoke?

Dong would reply that I started this habit recently since I thought smoking one or two cigars per week is not so injurious( Changed Attitude).

A Attitude of a person varies from Time to Time and the character of a person is what seen by others.

Example:

  • I never thought you would do like this.
  • I did not expect this from you.
  • I believed you but you cheated me.

We assume a Character on a person and would  view the person as the character and if the attitude change, the character change.

If Attitude of a Person can Change, why is that I am not able to change my habit?

We just need to understand that “Our Mind is not our Choice” or in other words, “Our Mind is not in Our Hands.

Why is that Mind is not our Choice and How to make it as Our Choice?

The Brain is an Organ which receives constant inputs from sense organs in the body and stores the information and the Output of the information can be called as a thought.

A series of thoughts can be called as Mind.

Example: I forgot where I kept my pen?

Upon Analyzing the information stored in the brain like where you went, whom you met and if you had given to someone, these thoughts can be put together as Mind.

The Information you receive will change day by day and the hence chances are that your mind changes and so does your attitude and character changes.

Now, The Real problem is if we want to really change something it seems to be very difficult.

Example:

  • I want to reduce my weight. Even though I have read a lot of information about being slim; I am unable to become slim.
  • I want to quit my bad habits such as smoking, but I am unable to do so; may be I think I got addicted.

So How to change an Habit or to become a better person?

We need to know about the Three Kinds of Mind to understand how we can change or how we can use our mind to become a better person.

  1. Conscious Mind – Thoughts
  2.  Sub-Conscious Mind – Habits (Character- Attitude)
  3. Unconscious Mind – Sleep

In Simple Words, Sub-Conscious Mind is the one which controls Habits. It will make you to remember even if you forget it.

Example:

Brushing the Teeth is an Habitual Action we do daily which is controlled by Sub-Conscious.

But in Day One, You would not have remembered that we need to brush our teeth and our mother would have reminded us to do so.

Thus it takes nearly a month for a subconscious mind to remind us an activity to do daily.

In Short we Just need to follow the action for 5 days. The Next Two days(Saturday and Sunday) again mother has to wake us up and then ask to brush our teeth.

To Change an Habit and to change ourselves, We just need to do the activity for 5 days.

Tense becomes Tension

Why Tense becomes Tension?

What we have which is common for anybody?

Time – 24 Hours a Day. However, we have differentiated Time as Past,Present and Future. We call it as

Past Tense

Present Tense

Future Tense

Now, Consider a Child is born.

The Child lives the present. The Child doesnt know about the past or dont worry about the Future. The Survival of the baby is taken care by the parents.

The Child slowly understands mother,father,relations and others. As the baby grows these nearby such as family becomes its past.

It enters a new world- School. This is the Time it starts to worry about Future.

All Children cry to go to School. The Mother cautions the child saying, “If You do not eat the food, teacher is coming to beat you.”

In the evening, the child is asked to prepare for the Next Day(Future) by giving tasks such as Home work or to study for the test.

A scenerio:

A child asks for a chocolate, the (past) parents tell the child that,”Only if you get First Rank(Future) I will buy and give you”

We worry about the Future!

We feel sad for the Past!

We never live the Present!

Now read the First Line for this Post!

The Courage

Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air.

– John Quincy Adams

Why is Life

Some of the Questions in Life

How to go to New-york
How to become a doctor
How to become rich
How to choose a profession
How to change a career

The answer to the Question- How to go to New-york

We can go by Flight, Train, Ship, Road. Also, there are different classes of ticket,different time travel and many other factors which we need to research to find out the best or optimum way to go.

Is it really possible for anyone to know all the details clearly such as what is the ticket rate for Airlines-A and how much time and in what path it would travel and also to know what is the ticket rate for Class-B in train and how much time and in what path it would travel.

A great research is being carried out to find out all the factors and a Tour is planned such as type of travel and ticket class is planned,Food and Accommodation are planned and at last the tour would be canceled.

This has happened to me many times. Some of my friends would call me for a tour. They make all the plans and at last the tour would be canceled.

The reason being, it is not the How that really matters. Life is all about Why!

For Instance, I wanted to travel to Thanjore which was in TamilNadu. I would not really care about How. I would care about why.

I was really interested to visit the Thanjore Big Temple which was built by the King Raja Raja Cholan. It was exciting me and in whatever means I would travel, I would be happy.

The Word  “Why” gives clarity in thought.

Now, let me change all the Questions

Why to go to New-york
Why to become a doctor
Why to become rich
Why to choose a profession
Why to change a career

The word Why is internal and can give more clarity. The more clear and confident we are, Life would blossom!

How to go to New-york
How to become a doctor
How to become rich
How to choose a profession
How to change a career

How to Live Longer

There is a relation between Breathe and Longivity.

For Example:

Dog breathe 72 Times per minute – Can Live 12 Years

Horse breathe 30 Times per minute – Can Live 25 to 30 Years

Elephant breathe 14-18 Times per minute – Can Live 100 Years

If Man breathe 13-15 Times per minute – Can Live 160 Years

 

Our Body is just like a machine. It needs to perform at a steady phase and hence it can live longer period.

The Inner Cry

When a Child is born, a mother’s happiness has no bounds and a father would have a feeling of success and cant control the feelings to share to everyone.

The  common Question asked is How does the child look! Is He looking like  father?

When the child is grown up, They ask a Question what do you want to become when you grow up?

Some of the answers of the child would be a Pilot, Police,Hero or Doctor.

When the child is taken outside, the child would cry to buy something.

The Father would buy them all to satisfy the child. The Child face would be full of happiness!!

Its Time for the Child Education – The School life begins and the college life ends.

The Investment of the Father has come to an End!

Now its Time for the Child to repay the Father’s Debt.

When the child thinks it time to fulfill his dreams and when it is time for desires to blossom.There comes a checkmate from the family to take over the responsibility. A responsibility to take care of the family and to repay the debts spent for child growth such as buying when the child cried and for the educational investments.

A child with huge responsibility is sandwiched between responsibility and dreams and there is an inner cry which cannot be heard.

Child Labor is not yet eradicated, it has turned into an investment model by the Poor father without the knowledge of the child.

When a Child is born, a mother’s happiness has no bounds and a father would have a feeling of success and cant control the feelings to share to everyone.

 

Love and Understanding

There is always a talk between Love and Understanding as below:

“People Love because of Mis-Understanding and then get seperated because of Understanding”

Understanding is an Intelligence

Love is an Feeling.

Scenerio: Men initially express his feelings and later on starts to question.

 

In Order for a Man to have better relationship with Woman, he has to Love her more and never try to understand her.

The Idea is when you are trying to understand you are using your intelligence and it fades away your emotions.

The Woman loves Emotions and they would love back if you give the emotion.