Mind is not our Choice?

 Mind is not in our hands or Our Mind is not our Choice.  How is that Mind is not our choice?

Scenario One: JoAnn and her Birthday Gift.

Day One:

JoAnn wanted to buy a gift for her friend’s birthday. She had 100 bucks and she found a wonderful watch and when she was about to purchase it, someone gently requests her that they wanted the watch and JoAnn felt sorry for them and let them buy it.

Day Two:

JoAnn went to a different shopping center and she was surprised to  find the same watch again but now she came to know that someone has already ordered it and now she approaches the concerned person to ask gently that she was in need of the watch but she were not successful in getting it.

Mind Analysis:I helped a person on Day One and in Day Two when the same thing happened to me, no one helped me.         Attitude:She now develop a Attitude that not to help others.

Day Three:

A Friend of JoAnn asked her to lend 100 bucks for a medical emergency. She just replied,” I don’t have any money now”. JoAnn went to a shop to buy some watch which was available for 100 bucks as it was getting delayed. She also felt sad about the lie she said to her friend

Day Four:

When the watch had been gifted to her friend , her friend replied that, I have so many watches and it could have been better if I had got something else. JoAnn felt sorry that she had taken three days to present a gift and that she was not appreciated. She also had a thought that,”I could have helped a friend who had an emergency.”

Mind Analysis: I did not help the Person in Day Three and gave a present to a person on Day Four and I was not appreciated. Attitude:Its better to help a person who is in need rather than who doesn’t ask for help.                                                    

All the Attitudes a person have turns into his character.How is that Attitude turns into a Character?

Scenario Two:  Dong  Lee Mind and his Attitude

Dong Lee Attitude: Smoking is injurious to health and I came to know that many smokers died of cancer.

Dong Lee goes to a party where everyone in the party smokes, some compels him to smoke but he was so strong that he did not accept their request. Everyone in  the party came to an conclusion about Dong that Dong never smokes(Dong Character).

When someone someday finds Dong Lee smoking, they would question him, I thought you would never smoke?

Dong would reply that I started this habit recently since I thought smoking one or two cigars per week is not so injurious( Changed Attitude).

A Attitude of a person varies from Time to Time and the character of a person is what seen by others.

Example:

  • I never thought you would do like this.
  • I did not expect this from you.
  • I believed you but you cheated me.

We assume a Character on a person and would  view the person as the character and if the attitude change, the character change.

If Attitude of a Person can Change, why is that I am not able to change my habit?

We just need to understand that “Our Mind is not our Choice” or in other words, “Our Mind is not in Our Hands.

Why is that Mind is not our Choice and How to make it as Our Choice?

The Brain is an Organ which receives constant inputs from sense organs in the body and stores the information and the Output of the information can be called as a thought.

A series of thoughts can be called as Mind.

Example: I forgot where I kept my pen?

Upon Analyzing the information stored in the brain like where you went, whom you met and if you had given to someone, these thoughts can be put together as Mind.

The Information you receive will change day by day and the hence chances are that your mind changes and so does your attitude and character changes.

Now, The Real problem is if we want to really change something it seems to be very difficult.

Example:

  • I want to reduce my weight. Even though I have read a lot of information about being slim; I am unable to become slim.
  • I want to quit my bad habits such as smoking, but I am unable to do so; may be I think I got addicted.

So How to change an Habit or to become a better person?

We need to know about the Three Kinds of Mind to understand how we can change or how we can use our mind to become a better person.

  1. Conscious Mind – Thoughts
  2.  Sub-Conscious Mind – Habits (Character- Attitude)
  3. Unconscious Mind – Sleep

In Simple Words, Sub-Conscious Mind is the one which controls Habits. It will make you to remember even if you forget it.

Example:

Brushing the Teeth is an Habitual Action we do daily which is controlled by Sub-Conscious.

But in Day One, You would not have remembered that we need to brush our teeth and our mother would have reminded us to do so.

Thus it takes nearly a month for a subconscious mind to remind us an activity to do daily.

In Short we Just need to follow the action for 5 days. The Next Two days(Saturday and Sunday) again mother has to wake us up and then ask to brush our teeth.

To Change an Habit and to change ourselves, We just need to do the activity for 5 days.

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Astrology is Perception

I am not a believer of astrology. But, Astrology has played a fatal role in my life and had brought sorrows to me.

It all started when I found some astrology books in my grandfather’s house. It was very fun for me to ask for other people’s date of birth and to check their character and yes most people agreed with some points what I said. The important aspect I do is I will read their characters personally and if I found a match in the book, I will tell only those points and not other points which I don’t understand.

So, by this I checked the traits of my close friends and used to tell them and they would throw me surprises and tell me how you are telling me exactly. But, I never knew it could create so much sorrow in my life.

I checked for one of my friend and said about the traits and yes there was surprise and agreed to be true. But the future part written on the person was not good in my perception of them. I firmly believed that a disaster is going to happen and I was going mad such that I should anyhow save from disaster. I had taken that as a motto of my life.

I was not a believer of god but I was going into external locus of control and some events occurred which was out of my control and thought that some external power is there. However, I never prayed for me but I was praying for that person and was crying day and night that I need to somehow stop the disaster. This was also because of the factor that the person said only god can save me and some events were occurring which gave me signals that a disaster is going to happen.

I started thinking day and night about the person and I failed to mind my own business. I did not show interest in anything and I was always found to be dull. I stopped enjoying and I thought I should not enjoy.

The disaster did not happen and my perception was wrong. I also believe that in some way, I was helpful in stopping the disaster again which I don’t know if it right or wrong. This is again my perception and I know that I somehow need to avoid it.

 

 

The Adamant Love

  • Every Time or may be Every Second, I am thinking about her.
  • Whenever I do something, it happens that my mind thinks whether she would like what I am doing now even if it no way relevant to her.
  • There is no patience, whenever I have an information I am eager to share with her.
  • Whenever I call her and she doesn’t pickup and I keep worrying all time and my mind thinks why she has not answered the call.
  • Some Days thoughts are filled that I am disturbing her and again it is out of control to call her to ask sorry if I have disturbed her.
  • There is always a Question in mind on whether she likes me or a thought that I am unable to understand her.

If any of the above scenarios  is true to a person then the person may assume that it is Love but more apt word should be Adamant.

The Adamant Nature is a devil which kills the self and others.

Examples of Adamant Nature:

  • As a child, we ask our parents to buy something and if we did not get it, we turn adamant and cry till we get what we wanted.
  • In other case, we cry to get something from our parents and continue to cry and once they give us, we might have said,”I don’t need it. Get Away from me”.

Understanding Adamant Nature:

  • By Being Adamant, we don’t listen to others and their intention of what they are trying to tell.
  • We also don’t express ourselves the real situation and just try to repeat the same answer again and again.

How to overcome Adamant Nature:

  • Being Adamant is an Attitude.
  • Easy way to change the Adamant nature is to have a “Take it easy Policy”.
  • Focus on others happiness and try to accept and respect the suggestions from them.
  • The words “Focus on others happiness” doesn’t mean you have to worry about them thinking if they are happy or not.

Desires-Good or Bad?

I was born in a middle class and I always had a feeling that I had no desires.

Some of My Attitudes were:

  • I never went shopping and I never had an idea to eat a delicious cake or chocolate when I crossed a bakery.
  • I was not moved towards luxury and I was Contentment.
  • Though I had some aim or thoughts to live better and healthier and I never used the word rich in my mind.

A Question on Desire:

When I was in my Final Year College, I happened to hear my friends speak very curious about money. One of my friend had joined a network marketing company and he tried to convince me for joining his network.

I was not moved by any of his words when he said you can get rich or buy a car. He showed me some checks and he pointed out few of his friends who had bought a car before even owning a degree.

Later after a month, one of my uncle called me and asked, ” Are you free on Saturday” and when I said “Yes” he quickly said “Bring my wife and kid to beach railway station” and he kept the call. I thought he would be in office and later take them for some hospitality and he asked some help to bring them carefully but I still had some confusion.

Then when I went there, he had taken me into a meeting hall and I could find men and women greeting each other and my uncle introduced me to them. All the people eyes were on me and I felt they are trying to act to me. Quickly I figured out that this should be some program about money.

As expected, a speaker came and addressed the issues about money, foreign trip, buying house and cars. Then the speaker asked a question who are all new for today’s sessions and I raised my hand. He addressed me that,You are about to recommend some products and earn money and proceeded with asking what is the recent movie you have seen?

I answered a movie name and quickly he asked was the movie good?

I answered yes and he asked whether you tell or discuss with your friends about the movie?

For this I answered No which he was not expecting and explained him that I don’t like to discuss about films or politics and that I like to be reserved.

He then quickly changed his questions on How much money to make and that you wont be able to get rich in your way.

I just answered that I would get a job(I already had an offer in hand) and I was confident that I would live my life happily with the job and the path I would travel and I also added that I don’t have any desires for money which had a meaning that I am not thinking to get into luxury.

After the meeting was over, a women came forward and asked me, “You don’t have any desires to get rich?” and then they saw me as strange which created a thinking, “Am I normal?”

Some of the people in the meeting said, we need to have desired in order to go forward in life.

In Think and Grow Rich, the author had written a burning desire is the key for riches.

Then I was deeply in thoughts for months, on what is my desire?

Desires – Spiritual View:

I  have read in some books that Buddha, a spiritualist had mentioned, Desires are the causes of sufferings.

I quickly checked if it is relevant in my life and I made a rewind

A Flashback:

When I was 6 or 7, one night I had a thought to eat drumstick and asked my parents and they said no shows were open now. Then I started to cry and then my parents had found them in our garden and prepared it.

I also cried for a toy gun after watching some action movies and the gun was broken in few days.

One night it rained heavily and asked my father to get a rain coat since its raining. He said I will get it tomorrow since it is raining now. I cried and said I want it to wear it for school tomorrow if it rains tomorrow. Then we went in rain and came wearing the rain coat once the rain stopped.

Later  these  desires  had disappeared and I no longer needed once I got want I wanted.

All these are silly incidents in childhood for everybody but a desire had taken a suffering before I had got anything I wanted.

A famous saying reminds me, “No Pain No Gain”

In Other words, it takes a pain to gain.

Desires – Philosophical View:

Once I heard a note about Socrates,a philosopher. It was mentioned that Socrates used to go to a shopping street and a person asked, ” I know you wont shop anything and why is that you are coming here?”

For it Socrates had answered,” I just come to see what things are there and How I am happy without those things

Through this I inferred that Socrates might have had an attitude not to buy things and try to extract happiness through things which might not be necessary.

Benjamin Franklin had written, “It is much easier to suppress a first desire than to satisfy those that follow.”

It might be inferred that A Desire to get things and to extract happiness and again follow to make it a process. It might be wise enough to suppress a desire which is not so worth.

The Word suppress made me to rewind in my past.

A Flashback:

During my School vacation, my mother used to take me to some of my relatives home to stay for a few days or week. I felt that I was not treated good since I was made to do some household works and I was not given proper food. It had made me tears during my childhood and I used to cry separately where nobody sees me. My relatives motive might be to train me or making me to learn household things but as a child I had a pain and I started to suppress my desires from there. Whenever they had a food or bought a chocolate I neglected it even though I had a desire to have it.It then started to happen on every year vacation and it had rooted in my mind to suppress the desires.

Desire and  Sense:

If you have noted I was talking about food. Could We call a Desire for Food.

As some of them say, “Desires are the essence of Life.  A Desire for Food is always there and once its lost we will die.”

The Words, “Desire for Food” created a thinking in me.

There is difference between Need  and Desire and the meaning for desire seems closer to Want.

We Need Food to live should be a statement rather than We Want Food to live. So, a Desire would be I want a Tasty Food.Again, the Word Taste had made me to think further. The Word Taste has to do something with Sense Organs.

We have Five external Sense Organs-Eyes,Ears,Nose,Tongue and Skin. Hence, Desire has to be something associated with these external Five Sense Organs.

For Instance:

  • He sees a beautiful girl and wants her to be his friend
  • Her voice seems to be lovely and he is wanting to see her.
  • When a food smell is good, he tries to reach it.
  • He want to eat the food which is tasty.
  • He touches her when he is romantic.

In this way, I believe Desires have to be associated with external sense organs.

The Eye is the most powerful sense organ in association with desire and creates influences on other sense organs.

For Instance:

  • I read somewhere that Bill Gates has a great desire for beauty and he likes to surround himself with beautiful things.
  • The Eye sees your favorite Food and it influences the Tongue to eat it and it may or may not be tasty as expected by the eye.

So What about the Saying-Desire for Money as money doesn’t seem to be attractive to sense organs.

Money is all about Need.

We need money even though the five sense organs doesn’t want it.

If people say, ” I have a desire for money” it is related with Need or indirectly related with external 5 sense organs to have money buy things they want to extract happiness.

Desires are therefore an emotion which will rise and fade away if they are satisfied by 5 sense organs such as eating too much of sweet fades away the taste.

The reason the philosophers and spiritualist infer Desires are causes of sufferings because it is when you try to extract happiness by wanting things we do not have or we cannot have and since you have raised the desire and it has not yet faded-you suffer.

Burning Desire for Success:

When Desires can cause suffer, How does Napoleon Hill says that,”Burning Desires are the key to Riches” The Word Rich is used in connection with success and not money.

Connection between Desires and Control:

  • If External factors control you and when you try to extract happiness by external factors, Desires can cause sufferings.
  • People who don’t react to external events can take charge of their life and can have better control

The Burning Desire is all about internal focus and to satisfy the mental image or the dream and not the 5 Sense Organs.

Napoleon Hill words should be inferred as- Burning Desire is about Becoming and not wanting.


Astrology- An Idea

The People who wanted Miracles to Happen might think about Astrology. If someone Times are Bad they might start to think about Astrology and check what might be the cause and how to prevent them via Astrology.

Astrology Idea-1:

Astrology is a Prediction. It can be a Opinion and need not necessarily be a Fact.

The word Prediction might be seen as ” There is always a possibility of probability Event”

 

Astrology Idea-2:

Science has influence on man and hence Astrology cannot take the name Science.

Science is every where which starts from an atom or molecule.

For Instance:

There are Four Seasons and Our Body conditions differ based on different climatic conditions.

Here Science has influence on us and not astrology.

Astrology takes the word Science just by predicting that One might get cold during winter.

 

Astrology Idea-3:

Astrology is a Time Based Art and not science

In Astrology, they predict what are his characters, What would be his profession and What would be his health conditions based on the Sun or Star positions.

This is clearly an Art since character, health and wealth are external factors. The Character is developed by means of people near him. Disease in the Past have eradicated and new disease are developed each day. Money is created by man and it is not a natural event.

The Astrologers  earn money by creating an Time based Art such as

You would become Rich after 20 years.

Your Marriage would be an Arranged Marriage.

 

For Instance, I can prove How an Astrologer Thinks:

Think of a Number between 1 to 5?

Ok!

Now here is a Prediction.

The Number you have Thought is

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Th3ee

Even though there are other numbers the first number that would have come to your mind is Three and then you might have changed the number and I would be wrong.

 

There is Always a Possibility of Probability Event.

Now Check that There are Only Few Options when they predict:

Rich and Poor

No Marriage -Arrange Marriage – Love Marriage.

 

In Future if there are any changes such as now, “Living Together”, the Options would increase for the Astrologers such as

No Marriage – Living Together -Arrange Marriage – Love Marriage

Give-Receive-TakeOver

A True Friend never get in your way unless you happen to be going Down!

The Preception is that someone who has helped you during your Down Times are often considered as True Friends.

The Idea is that You have received some emotion such as motivational energy or affection or love.

Once you are back in action, the mentality is developed to still need the person to give you the emotion to continue the journey.

And if you dont receive it, then you would be prone to go back to the Down State.

The Worst case is you might try to take over from them even they dont intent to give and results in break up.

 

Give-Receive-TakeOver

As long as Give and Receive are in Harmony there is no Take Over

Rich Man- Poor Man

Rich Man : I have 4 Green Houses and 1 Red Hotel and I also have infinite returns to my bank account from my assets. What do you have?

Poor Man: I have only one son. His Girl friend is your daughter.