Astrology is Perception

I am not a believer of astrology. But, Astrology has played a fatal role in my life and had brought sorrows to me.

It all started when I found some astrology books in my grandfather’s house. It was very fun for me to ask for other people’s date of birth and to check their character and yes most people agreed with some points what I said. The important aspect I do is I will read their characters personally and if I found a match in the book, I will tell only those points and not other points which I don’t understand.

So, by this I checked the traits of my close friends and used to tell them and they would throw me surprises and tell me how you are telling me exactly. But, I never knew it could create so much sorrow in my life.

I checked for one of my friend and said about the traits and yes there was surprise and agreed to be true. But the future part written on the person was not good in my perception of them. I firmly believed that a disaster is going to happen and I was going mad such that I should anyhow save from disaster. I had taken that as a motto of my life.

I was not a believer of god but I was going into external locus of control and some events occurred which was out of my control and thought that some external power is there. However, I never prayed for me but I was praying for that person and was crying day and night that I need to somehow stop the disaster. This was also because of the factor that the person said only god can save me and some events were occurring which gave me signals that a disaster is going to happen.

I started thinking day and night about the person and I failed to mind my own business. I did not show interest in anything and I was always found to be dull. I stopped enjoying and I thought I should not enjoy.

The disaster did not happen and my perception was wrong. I also believe that in some way, I was helpful in stopping the disaster again which I don’t know if it right or wrong. This is again my perception and I know that I somehow need to avoid it.

 

 

How to Live Longer

There is a relation between Breathe and Longivity.

For Example:

Dog breathe 72 Times per minute – Can Live 12 Years

Horse breathe 30 Times per minute – Can Live 25 to 30 Years

Elephant breathe 14-18 Times per minute – Can Live 100 Years

If Man breathe 13-15 Times per minute – Can Live 160 Years

 

Our Body is just like a machine. It needs to perform at a steady phase and hence it can live longer period.

Desires-Good or Bad?

I was born in a middle class and I always had a feeling that I had no desires.

Some of My Attitudes were:

  • I never went shopping and I never had an idea to eat a delicious cake or chocolate when I crossed a bakery.
  • I was not moved towards luxury and I was Contentment.
  • Though I had some aim or thoughts to live better and healthier and I never used the word rich in my mind.

A Question on Desire:

When I was in my Final Year College, I happened to hear my friends speak very curious about money. One of my friend had joined a network marketing company and he tried to convince me for joining his network.

I was not moved by any of his words when he said you can get rich or buy a car. He showed me some checks and he pointed out few of his friends who had bought a car before even owning a degree.

Later after a month, one of my uncle called me and asked, ” Are you free on Saturday” and when I said “Yes” he quickly said “Bring my wife and kid to beach railway station” and he kept the call. I thought he would be in office and later take them for some hospitality and he asked some help to bring them carefully but I still had some confusion.

Then when I went there, he had taken me into a meeting hall and I could find men and women greeting each other and my uncle introduced me to them. All the people eyes were on me and I felt they are trying to act to me. Quickly I figured out that this should be some program about money.

As expected, a speaker came and addressed the issues about money, foreign trip, buying house and cars. Then the speaker asked a question who are all new for today’s sessions and I raised my hand. He addressed me that,You are about to recommend some products and earn money and proceeded with asking what is the recent movie you have seen?

I answered a movie name and quickly he asked was the movie good?

I answered yes and he asked whether you tell or discuss with your friends about the movie?

For this I answered No which he was not expecting and explained him that I don’t like to discuss about films or politics and that I like to be reserved.

He then quickly changed his questions on How much money to make and that you wont be able to get rich in your way.

I just answered that I would get a job(I already had an offer in hand) and I was confident that I would live my life happily with the job and the path I would travel and I also added that I don’t have any desires for money which had a meaning that I am not thinking to get into luxury.

After the meeting was over, a women came forward and asked me, “You don’t have any desires to get rich?” and then they saw me as strange which created a thinking, “Am I normal?”

Some of the people in the meeting said, we need to have desired in order to go forward in life.

In Think and Grow Rich, the author had written a burning desire is the key for riches.

Then I was deeply in thoughts for months, on what is my desire?

Desires – Spiritual View:

I  have read in some books that Buddha, a spiritualist had mentioned, Desires are the causes of sufferings.

I quickly checked if it is relevant in my life and I made a rewind

A Flashback:

When I was 6 or 7, one night I had a thought to eat drumstick and asked my parents and they said no shows were open now. Then I started to cry and then my parents had found them in our garden and prepared it.

I also cried for a toy gun after watching some action movies and the gun was broken in few days.

One night it rained heavily and asked my father to get a rain coat since its raining. He said I will get it tomorrow since it is raining now. I cried and said I want it to wear it for school tomorrow if it rains tomorrow. Then we went in rain and came wearing the rain coat once the rain stopped.

Later  these  desires  had disappeared and I no longer needed once I got want I wanted.

All these are silly incidents in childhood for everybody but a desire had taken a suffering before I had got anything I wanted.

A famous saying reminds me, “No Pain No Gain”

In Other words, it takes a pain to gain.

Desires – Philosophical View:

Once I heard a note about Socrates,a philosopher. It was mentioned that Socrates used to go to a shopping street and a person asked, ” I know you wont shop anything and why is that you are coming here?”

For it Socrates had answered,” I just come to see what things are there and How I am happy without those things

Through this I inferred that Socrates might have had an attitude not to buy things and try to extract happiness through things which might not be necessary.

Benjamin Franklin had written, “It is much easier to suppress a first desire than to satisfy those that follow.”

It might be inferred that A Desire to get things and to extract happiness and again follow to make it a process. It might be wise enough to suppress a desire which is not so worth.

The Word suppress made me to rewind in my past.

A Flashback:

During my School vacation, my mother used to take me to some of my relatives home to stay for a few days or week. I felt that I was not treated good since I was made to do some household works and I was not given proper food. It had made me tears during my childhood and I used to cry separately where nobody sees me. My relatives motive might be to train me or making me to learn household things but as a child I had a pain and I started to suppress my desires from there. Whenever they had a food or bought a chocolate I neglected it even though I had a desire to have it.It then started to happen on every year vacation and it had rooted in my mind to suppress the desires.

Desire and  Sense:

If you have noted I was talking about food. Could We call a Desire for Food.

As some of them say, “Desires are the essence of Life.  A Desire for Food is always there and once its lost we will die.”

The Words, “Desire for Food” created a thinking in me.

There is difference between Need  and Desire and the meaning for desire seems closer to Want.

We Need Food to live should be a statement rather than We Want Food to live. So, a Desire would be I want a Tasty Food.Again, the Word Taste had made me to think further. The Word Taste has to do something with Sense Organs.

We have Five external Sense Organs-Eyes,Ears,Nose,Tongue and Skin. Hence, Desire has to be something associated with these external Five Sense Organs.

For Instance:

  • He sees a beautiful girl and wants her to be his friend
  • Her voice seems to be lovely and he is wanting to see her.
  • When a food smell is good, he tries to reach it.
  • He want to eat the food which is tasty.
  • He touches her when he is romantic.

In this way, I believe Desires have to be associated with external sense organs.

The Eye is the most powerful sense organ in association with desire and creates influences on other sense organs.

For Instance:

  • I read somewhere that Bill Gates has a great desire for beauty and he likes to surround himself with beautiful things.
  • The Eye sees your favorite Food and it influences the Tongue to eat it and it may or may not be tasty as expected by the eye.

So What about the Saying-Desire for Money as money doesn’t seem to be attractive to sense organs.

Money is all about Need.

We need money even though the five sense organs doesn’t want it.

If people say, ” I have a desire for money” it is related with Need or indirectly related with external 5 sense organs to have money buy things they want to extract happiness.

Desires are therefore an emotion which will rise and fade away if they are satisfied by 5 sense organs such as eating too much of sweet fades away the taste.

The reason the philosophers and spiritualist infer Desires are causes of sufferings because it is when you try to extract happiness by wanting things we do not have or we cannot have and since you have raised the desire and it has not yet faded-you suffer.

Burning Desire for Success:

When Desires can cause suffer, How does Napoleon Hill says that,”Burning Desires are the key to Riches” The Word Rich is used in connection with success and not money.

Connection between Desires and Control:

  • If External factors control you and when you try to extract happiness by external factors, Desires can cause sufferings.
  • People who don’t react to external events can take charge of their life and can have better control

The Burning Desire is all about internal focus and to satisfy the mental image or the dream and not the 5 Sense Organs.

Napoleon Hill words should be inferred as- Burning Desire is about Becoming and not wanting.


Love and Ego

There is always a contradiction between Love and Ego

Many intend to say:

Ego is an Enemy for Love

Ego is also a form of Love

 

For Eg, Many of them explain Love and Ego as Below:

Her Love Says, ” Let me Call him since it’s been so long since I spoke to him”

Her Ego Says, ” Let Him Call and it is so bad that he has forgotten me”

 

Love is more of an Emotional Approach.

Ego is more of an Intelligence Approach.

 

The Emotion is an Energy and  Feeling is a perception of Emotion and Love is a feeling.

Intelligence is an Thought and Thoughts gives Actions and Actions results in Results.

 

Emotion is Higher in Level than Intelligence and you have to Question yourself if an intelligence is stopping an Emotion.

Give-Receive-TakeOver

A True Friend never get in your way unless you happen to be going Down!

The Preception is that someone who has helped you during your Down Times are often considered as True Friends.

The Idea is that You have received some emotion such as motivational energy or affection or love.

Once you are back in action, the mentality is developed to still need the person to give you the emotion to continue the journey.

And if you dont receive it, then you would be prone to go back to the Down State.

The Worst case is you might try to take over from them even they dont intent to give and results in break up.

 

Give-Receive-TakeOver

As long as Give and Receive are in Harmony there is no Take Over

Thought of Life

What we are Today comes from Thoughts of Yesterday.

And Our Present Thoughts build our Life of Tomorrow.

-Buddha

Scar in Life

The Facial Scar was disturbing a lot. It was a feeling that the confidence was lost and what to do in Life. A thought raised such that Only if the scar fades away, I could live a Life and the confidence would come back.

I went to the Doctor and his words further disturbed me, He said,” You cannot attend any interviews”. When I went out to my Home I was disturbed the most when anyone passing in the road came and asked me,”what is that in your face and How it happened”. In my college, my class mates felt sorry for me and it created a deep sadness within me.

Every Night I had tears in my eyes and every morning I was terrified to look myself in the mirror. I dont want to look myself sad all the time. I knew my face was looking ugly and the Outside scar had created me a deep scar within my Life.

I started to cover my face with a piece of scarf to cover the scar. I started to notice other people and found that they were not noticing me. I walked straight to my seat in college and removed the scarf slowly in the class so that nobody noticed me.

As days passed by I started a relationship with a girl and found that my confidence level had started to increase in exponential manner. Whenever I talked with her I was not wearing the scarf and I always thought she would ask me about the scar in the face. Sometimes I thought why such a beautiful girl is talking to me who is so ugly.

It was the time I started not to wear the scarf anymore and I walked all the way with confidence. My class members were stunned to see the girl talking to me. They asked me, “You are not looking good now and How is that she is talking to me?”  I really doesn’t know the answer to their question but I found that my answers to confidence came from her.