Why is Life

Some of the Questions in Life

How to go to New-york
How to become a doctor
How to become rich
How to choose a profession
How to change a career

The answer to the Question- How to go to New-york

We can go by Flight, Train, Ship, Road. Also, there are different classes of ticket,different time travel and many other factors which we need to research to find out the best or optimum way to go.

Is it really possible for anyone to know all the details clearly such as what is the ticket rate for Airlines-A and how much time and in what path it would travel and also to know what is the ticket rate for Class-B in train and how much time and in what path it would travel.

A great research is being carried out to find out all the factors and a Tour is planned such as type of travel and ticket class is planned,Food and Accommodation are planned and at last the tour would be canceled.

This has happened to me many times. Some of my friends would call me for a tour. They make all the plans and at last the tour would be canceled.

The reason being, it is not the How that really matters. Life is all about Why!

For Instance, I wanted to travel to Thanjore which was in TamilNadu. I would not really care about How. I would care about why.

I was really interested to visit the Thanjore Big Temple which was built by the King Raja Raja Cholan. It was exciting me and in whatever means I would travel, I would be happy.

The Word  “Why” gives clarity in thought.

Now, let me change all the Questions

Why to go to New-york
Why to become a doctor
Why to become rich
Why to choose a profession
Why to change a career

The word Why is internal and can give more clarity. The more clear and confident we are, Life would blossom!

How to go to New-york
How to become a doctor
How to become rich
How to choose a profession
How to change a career

Desires-Good or Bad?

I was born in a middle class and I always had a feeling that I had no desires.

Some of My Attitudes were:

  • I never went shopping and I never had an idea to eat a delicious cake or chocolate when I crossed a bakery.
  • I was not moved towards luxury and I was Contentment.
  • Though I had some aim or thoughts to live better and healthier and I never used the word rich in my mind.

A Question on Desire:

When I was in my Final Year College, I happened to hear my friends speak very curious about money. One of my friend had joined a network marketing company and he tried to convince me for joining his network.

I was not moved by any of his words when he said you can get rich or buy a car. He showed me some checks and he pointed out few of his friends who had bought a car before even owning a degree.

Later after a month, one of my uncle called me and asked, ” Are you free on Saturday” and when I said “Yes” he quickly said “Bring my wife and kid to beach railway station” and he kept the call. I thought he would be in office and later take them for some hospitality and he asked some help to bring them carefully but I still had some confusion.

Then when I went there, he had taken me into a meeting hall and I could find men and women greeting each other and my uncle introduced me to them. All the people eyes were on me and I felt they are trying to act to me. Quickly I figured out that this should be some program about money.

As expected, a speaker came and addressed the issues about money, foreign trip, buying house and cars. Then the speaker asked a question who are all new for today’s sessions and I raised my hand. He addressed me that,You are about to recommend some products and earn money and proceeded with asking what is the recent movie you have seen?

I answered a movie name and quickly he asked was the movie good?

I answered yes and he asked whether you tell or discuss with your friends about the movie?

For this I answered No which he was not expecting and explained him that I don’t like to discuss about films or politics and that I like to be reserved.

He then quickly changed his questions on How much money to make and that you wont be able to get rich in your way.

I just answered that I would get a job(I already had an offer in hand) and I was confident that I would live my life happily with the job and the path I would travel and I also added that I don’t have any desires for money which had a meaning that I am not thinking to get into luxury.

After the meeting was over, a women came forward and asked me, “You don’t have any desires to get rich?” and then they saw me as strange which created a thinking, “Am I normal?”

Some of the people in the meeting said, we need to have desired in order to go forward in life.

In Think and Grow Rich, the author had written a burning desire is the key for riches.

Then I was deeply in thoughts for months, on what is my desire?

Desires – Spiritual View:

I  have read in some books that Buddha, a spiritualist had mentioned, Desires are the causes of sufferings.

I quickly checked if it is relevant in my life and I made a rewind

A Flashback:

When I was 6 or 7, one night I had a thought to eat drumstick and asked my parents and they said no shows were open now. Then I started to cry and then my parents had found them in our garden and prepared it.

I also cried for a toy gun after watching some action movies and the gun was broken in few days.

One night it rained heavily and asked my father to get a rain coat since its raining. He said I will get it tomorrow since it is raining now. I cried and said I want it to wear it for school tomorrow if it rains tomorrow. Then we went in rain and came wearing the rain coat once the rain stopped.

Later  these  desires  had disappeared and I no longer needed once I got want I wanted.

All these are silly incidents in childhood for everybody but a desire had taken a suffering before I had got anything I wanted.

A famous saying reminds me, “No Pain No Gain”

In Other words, it takes a pain to gain.

Desires – Philosophical View:

Once I heard a note about Socrates,a philosopher. It was mentioned that Socrates used to go to a shopping street and a person asked, ” I know you wont shop anything and why is that you are coming here?”

For it Socrates had answered,” I just come to see what things are there and How I am happy without those things

Through this I inferred that Socrates might have had an attitude not to buy things and try to extract happiness through things which might not be necessary.

Benjamin Franklin had written, “It is much easier to suppress a first desire than to satisfy those that follow.”

It might be inferred that A Desire to get things and to extract happiness and again follow to make it a process. It might be wise enough to suppress a desire which is not so worth.

The Word suppress made me to rewind in my past.

A Flashback:

During my School vacation, my mother used to take me to some of my relatives home to stay for a few days or week. I felt that I was not treated good since I was made to do some household works and I was not given proper food. It had made me tears during my childhood and I used to cry separately where nobody sees me. My relatives motive might be to train me or making me to learn household things but as a child I had a pain and I started to suppress my desires from there. Whenever they had a food or bought a chocolate I neglected it even though I had a desire to have it.It then started to happen on every year vacation and it had rooted in my mind to suppress the desires.

Desire and  Sense:

If you have noted I was talking about food. Could We call a Desire for Food.

As some of them say, “Desires are the essence of Life.  A Desire for Food is always there and once its lost we will die.”

The Words, “Desire for Food” created a thinking in me.

There is difference between Need  and Desire and the meaning for desire seems closer to Want.

We Need Food to live should be a statement rather than We Want Food to live. So, a Desire would be I want a Tasty Food.Again, the Word Taste had made me to think further. The Word Taste has to do something with Sense Organs.

We have Five external Sense Organs-Eyes,Ears,Nose,Tongue and Skin. Hence, Desire has to be something associated with these external Five Sense Organs.

For Instance:

  • He sees a beautiful girl and wants her to be his friend
  • Her voice seems to be lovely and he is wanting to see her.
  • When a food smell is good, he tries to reach it.
  • He want to eat the food which is tasty.
  • He touches her when he is romantic.

In this way, I believe Desires have to be associated with external sense organs.

The Eye is the most powerful sense organ in association with desire and creates influences on other sense organs.

For Instance:

  • I read somewhere that Bill Gates has a great desire for beauty and he likes to surround himself with beautiful things.
  • The Eye sees your favorite Food and it influences the Tongue to eat it and it may or may not be tasty as expected by the eye.

So What about the Saying-Desire for Money as money doesn’t seem to be attractive to sense organs.

Money is all about Need.

We need money even though the five sense organs doesn’t want it.

If people say, ” I have a desire for money” it is related with Need or indirectly related with external 5 sense organs to have money buy things they want to extract happiness.

Desires are therefore an emotion which will rise and fade away if they are satisfied by 5 sense organs such as eating too much of sweet fades away the taste.

The reason the philosophers and spiritualist infer Desires are causes of sufferings because it is when you try to extract happiness by wanting things we do not have or we cannot have and since you have raised the desire and it has not yet faded-you suffer.

Burning Desire for Success:

When Desires can cause suffer, How does Napoleon Hill says that,”Burning Desires are the key to Riches” The Word Rich is used in connection with success and not money.

Connection between Desires and Control:

  • If External factors control you and when you try to extract happiness by external factors, Desires can cause sufferings.
  • People who don’t react to external events can take charge of their life and can have better control

The Burning Desire is all about internal focus and to satisfy the mental image or the dream and not the 5 Sense Organs.

Napoleon Hill words should be inferred as- Burning Desire is about Becoming and not wanting.


Thought of Life

What we are Today comes from Thoughts of Yesterday.

And Our Present Thoughts build our Life of Tomorrow.

-Buddha

Scar in Life

The Facial Scar was disturbing a lot. It was a feeling that the confidence was lost and what to do in Life. A thought raised such that Only if the scar fades away, I could live a Life and the confidence would come back.

I went to the Doctor and his words further disturbed me, He said,” You cannot attend any interviews”. When I went out to my Home I was disturbed the most when anyone passing in the road came and asked me,”what is that in your face and How it happened”. In my college, my class mates felt sorry for me and it created a deep sadness within me.

Every Night I had tears in my eyes and every morning I was terrified to look myself in the mirror. I dont want to look myself sad all the time. I knew my face was looking ugly and the Outside scar had created me a deep scar within my Life.

I started to cover my face with a piece of scarf to cover the scar. I started to notice other people and found that they were not noticing me. I walked straight to my seat in college and removed the scarf slowly in the class so that nobody noticed me.

As days passed by I started a relationship with a girl and found that my confidence level had started to increase in exponential manner. Whenever I talked with her I was not wearing the scarf and I always thought she would ask me about the scar in the face. Sometimes I thought why such a beautiful girl is talking to me who is so ugly.

It was the time I started not to wear the scarf anymore and I walked all the way with confidence. My class members were stunned to see the girl talking to me. They asked me, “You are not looking good now and How is that she is talking to me?”  I really doesn’t know the answer to their question but I found that my answers to confidence came from her.

 

Greatest Gift

The Greatest Gift you can give someone is your time,

because when you are giving someone your time,

You are giving them a portion of your Life

that you can never get back.

Retail Life in India

The Retail  in India – The System have Life in it and it doesn’t mean spending money to unknown seller.

Tea Shop: The Tea Shops are Souls of India and they are found everywhere and in each Street of India. Almost all the People go to tea shop for a cup of  tea and other items sold here include butter biscuit, cigars, bajji, bonda, samosa. People working in Office usually maintain a friendly relationship with the Local Tea Seller and enjoys a cup of tea and samosa with co-workers.

Grocery Shopping: Family buy from Individual Retail Guys shop(We call them “Anachi Kadai” in Tamil) or from a local Super Market.The Shopping is done  usually in the First Week of the Month in Credit or Account and the Payment is usually made the Next Month.Suppose they are in need of vegetable or some Grocery like Salt or Sugar,then they send the Boy Child in the family to buy from the corner street shop.

Apparel Shopping: The Cloths are bought only during festival times such as Dewali, Pongal where the Shops offer discounts. Other Times the sales are low or moderate. People are not interest to wear quality clothes as they stay usually in Home while back from Office. There are a few Outings or Tour and many times going to relative marriage is the Outing to the family. Woman usually try to wear the Best collection they have during these times.

Indian Retail Gaints: The Small Individual Seller Shop are mostly shopped by people compared to retail multiplex and Branded Shops. Recently the Business magnets turn to concentrate on retailing and continue to expand their Brands in different cities.  The Retail gaints in India include Pantaloon-Big Bazaar, Relaince-Reliance Mart,Relaince Fresh,Tata-Landmark, Titan,WestLand,Indian Oil-Bunk. Some Comparatively Small Players include Birla-More,Nilgiris,UniverCell Mobiles,Hotel Saravanaa Bhavan.

Outside Players: International Sellers such as Bata,McDonalds, KFC, Reebok, Colors of Benetton,Louis Phillipe are popular in India. Rich People may Shop at these Brands and other middle class and poor people usually avoid them and sometime may try to have a look into the shop and come back. A Few Middle class would buy just for the Brand Name.

Petrol Bunk

Petrol Bunk

Retail Bank

Retail Bank

Saravana Store

Big Bazaar

Big Bazaar

Brand Shop

Brand Shop

Shop inside Multiplex

Shop inside Multiplex

Show Room

Show Room

Food Court

Food Court

KFC in Chennai

KFC in Chennai

MultiPlex

MultiPlex

Star Promotions

Star Promotions

Pooja for New Shop

Pooja for New Shop

Shops @ Beach

Shops @ Beach

sclupture Shop

sclupture Shop

Sclupture Shop

Sclupture Shop

Tourist Street

Tourist Street

Sclupture Shop

Sclupture Shop

Artistic Culture Shop

Artistic Culture Shop

Chat Shop in Street

Chat Shop in Street

Chat Shop

Chat Shop

Chat Street with Shops

Chat Street with Shops

Cool Drink Shop

Cool Drink Shop

Shop Inside Railway

Shop Inside Railway

Multiplex

Multiplex

Local Bakery

Local Bakery

 Grocery Shop

Grocery Shop

Tourist Street

Tourist Street

Furniture Mart

Furniture Mart

Container in Street

Container in Street

Coconut Shop

Coconut Shop

Grocery Shop

Grocery Shop

Cycle Stand

Cycle Stand

Corner Complex

Corner Complex

Fish Seller

Fish Seller

Town Shops

Town Shops

Shoe Shop

Shoe Shop

Reebok-Levis

Reebok-Levis

Van Heusen

Van Heusen

Louis Phillippe

Louis Phillippe

Shopping Centre

Shopping Centre

Lie Targets

A man was sleeping in his House. Suddenly YamaRaj, the Kill God appeared before him and said , “Go Out and Enjoy your Life and Nothing will happen to you. Why are you sleeping and wasting your time”.

Feeling Happy he ran over with excitement and met with an accident. [Interval]

In Heaven:

He shouted, Why the Hell you Lied to me and See now I met with accident and I am here.

Yama coolly replied, “Sorry Yar. Month End Pressure and I have to achieve my Target”.

[In Business, If there is Target,there definitely got be a Lie]

Love Angers

Anger is the Only Evil which makes Invisible for a Minute.

Love is the Only Suspicious Think which is Visible even after Anger!.

Win Yourself

Don’t see others as Doing Better than You. Beat your Own Records Everyday!

“Success is the Fight between You and Yourself”.

Death Love

He loved her so much. It was like every moment he thought about her. Unfortunately she died, he could not control his tears.

He kept on crying day and night. His friends consoled him but he was not able to hear anyone and he could only think about her and it filled his eyes with tears. Day and Night he was thinking about her and one night, he had a dream and he could not differentiate whether its dream or real.

He saw her with so many girls and they all had candle in their hands. The visual gave him some happiness but soon he became unhappy when he noticed everyone was bright and their candle was lightened. He saw her so sad and her candle was never lightened.

He felt like he was asking her, why your candle is not lightened and that why are you looking so sad?

She said whenever I enlighten my candle your tears fall on it. So Please stop crying and I wanted you to be happy.

The Dog’s Bark

You will never reach your Destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.

The Dog’s will Bark!!!

Successful Lips

Successful People always have Two Things in their Lips!!!!

They are

1. First is Smile

2. Second is Silence.

Poor Man’s Advice

A smoker was smoking at a Airport.

A Gentle man arrives and asked him- How much do you smoke per day.

Smoker-why?

Gentle man-If you would have collected the money instead of smoking, the plane in front of you would have been yours.

Smoker- Is that your Plane?

Gentle Man – No why?

Smoker – Thanks for your advice. The Plane is mine.

Smoker Name is Vijay Malliya

Girls Change

One Fine Morning, an Old Man went jogging and saw a Boy sitting with a girl in the Park. He was delighted to watch them.

The Next Day, he saw the same boy sitting with Another Girl. He was confused and continued jogging.

The Very Next Day, the same Boy was sitting with yet another girl. The Old man smiled and continued jogging.

Why he Smiled?

Boys Never Change. Only Girls Change!!!!

Old Age

Old Age appears to be Best in Some things!

Old Wood – Best to Burn

Old Book- Best to Read

Old Cycle – Best to Clean

Old Wine – Best to Sip

Old Friends – Best for Ever

Kid Love Story

UKG Kiddy – Whenever she kept her foot, I kissed those places.

LKG Kiddy – Wow!! What happened next?

UKG Kiddy – (with smile) She went and said to my mom that I am eating mud.

Money Problem

If Money would solve their problem, why do they think that Money is the root cause of all problem???

No Problem in Life

Problem is just the Distance  between Expectation and Reality.

So, Either Expect Less!

Or, Accept the Reality!

Sleep and Sin

Dont disturb the One who is Sleeping…

Because its the time where he does no sin.

Overcome Sadness

It was going all fine but why did it happen and how it happened would be a deep emotional thought during the times of sadness.

There would be no motivation, a philosophical state of thinking craving the mind and with no smile or desire would be the condition. The reason for sorrow could be anything but the end result would be sadness.

Telling it in a different point of view, the sub-conscious mind has lost its energy. It would be a condition which also reveal all about yourself and your character  as the sub-conscious mind is in deep state of thinking.

The art of overcoming sadness  in simple is to do something or the other in short. Doing the things which are liked and interesting.Writing simple goals and accomplishing it one by one.

The Deep sorrow may take months or years to overcome but sure Life is Experience.